Ever meet people that actually talk (seriously) like they came from the ghettoes of New Jersey when in reality, they were your childhood neighbour from a middle-class suburban residential area...Yeah... this ones for them.
So everyone wants an identity.They want to be known for who they are individually but they simultaneously want to be accepted by those around them. When you have categories placed in front of you like: "gangster", "nerd" etc... and at the same time your still trying to figure out who you are, you do the easiest thing--you pick one and identify with it.
In my opinion we develop and we grow into who we are before we actually become cognitively aware of who we really are. It seems to me that our childhood development paired with genetic inheritance plus the environment we are faced with creates who we are and we don't even know it!
Can we choose who are parents are? No we cant. Can we choose what happens to us as children while growing up? No we cant (considering we are too young to even understand half the stuff around us, but that doesn't mean that it doesn't impact us). Can we choose how introverted/extroverted we are? According to genetics, no, we cant. So by the time we have the cognitive ability of introspection most of our likes/dislikes emotionality (genetic based), and essentially why we are the way we are has been put together already. So then comes the identity crisis.. around the pre-teens (oh joy!). Trying to figure out where you belong, trying to understand who you are, finding role models, all that good stuff. At this stage you start to work with who you are and further sculpt the person you want to be, more or less for the rest of your life.
This sculpting process to me... is extremely important. You can try to be that positive, open minded, relaxed person or you can end up the close-minded, angry-with-life-grab-me-another-alcoholic-beverage-dude who spends his days feeling sorry for himself because he doesn't realize he never worked out his inner conflicts. So basically you can either make your life easier (by becoming a more sociable, and emotionally intelligent individual) or make your life hella hard by flooding your life with negativity and not believing in "self improvement" Jez humans are so complex.
Anyway's the point I'm struggling to make here is that if you be you... you will find people that accept you for you and those are the people you should hold on to. You don't need slang to show people you've got swag... the true swag master's swag is one that comes from being yourself. Awwe yee. and that... well that makes me feel hearts.
~Heart and sheit. ye yee
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