Love or Obsession?

I am in love with this new artist I was recently introduced to. My my. <3 Hearts be spewing outta me chest matey. She rocks the style of the 50's so absolutely beautifully... *tear* if only I could touch that... perfectly waved hair.... @_@

If you liked this song, check out some of these!

-Summer Time Sadness http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jHLR5wjgxi4&feature=BFa&list=PLCFD38292CDD36CB0 

-Dark Paradise http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DBT9H30IklM&feature=BFa&list=PLCFD38292CDD36CB0

-Kill Kill http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mrziYF6bVAE&feature=BFa&list=PLCFD38292CDD36CB0

I think this video holds a very powerful meaning... such a beautifully packaged gift. How I see it, what we sometimes think might be love, causes us to "drown" ourselves in our expectations and ideals. The same expectations and ideals end up creating a wishful identity for the other person and we become virtually blind to any other flaws they might have. I like how the video clearly depicts these ideas. After gracefully undressing the tattoo covered hunk (we shall refer to him as tattoo Timmy) he literally drowns the pretty little Lana and then pulls her into the water completely at the end. Not to mention this whole idea of “blinded love” when someone thinks they're in love. Tattoo Timmy looks like an alligator underwater but above water Lana can only see his human side... or rather, what she wants to see. So simple... and so beautiful! *tear*.

Lets take a quick looksie at the lyrics:

“You were kind of punk-rock

I grew up on hip-hop

You fit me better

Then my favorite sweater

 And I know that love is mean, and love hurts

But I still remember that day we met in December”

"I will love you till the end of time

I would wait a million years 

promise you'll remember that you're mine 

Baby can you see through the tears?

Love you more 

Than those bitches before 

Say you'll remember, oh baby, say you'll remember 

I will love you till the end of time"

(WAIT... when did she snag in "bitches" I didn't even hear her say that O_O Is it just me or does her swearing sound hella classy? Lol)

When I read the first chunk of the lyrics the little metaphor of tattoo Timmy being half-alligator and half-man made even more sense. She says that he was sort of punk-rock while she grew up on hip-hop. Then she goes on to say that he fit her better than her favorite sweater. I think she’s making reference to the fact that punk-rock and hip-hop are extremely different. With the sweater, I think here she’s throwing out the idea that she made him fit, when really he didn’t. On top of water he was man but under water he was an alligator. This is further reinforcing the idea that she saw in him, what she wanted to. People seem to create the person they want to fit them, and refuse to see the reality of a situation.

The second part she says that she knows that love is mean, and love hurts. But she remembers the day they met. I feel like here, she acknowledges that their love is not working but she wants to latch on to the love they had in the beginning, when they first met. In my opinion here’s the part where people screw themselves over (O_o aww sheit). I feel like people grow accustomed to the type of relationship they might be in, weather it is good or bad and end up sticking to it simply because it’s all they know. It seems like sometimes people don’t want “what they had before” to be deemed useless, so they stay together regardless of their compatibility. If they do break up… they are acknowledging that they may have been naively idealistic of the other person and end up devaluing what they had before. So it’s a complex battle between belief (what we initially thought) and denial (what we refuse to accept). In all honesty though, accepting that you have been idealistic is a hard task. If you do accept it what might follow for some is this idea that we will never find anyone. Maybe to avoid this we don’t acknowledge our lack of judgement. When all is stripped down the truth is if two people are not compatible… they just aren't.

When I read the other part of these lyrics the words that come to mind are passion, obsession and maybe dedication. But maybe passion is easily confused as obsession? Where is the line drawn between stubbornness to follow our obsession and a passion for something? Maybe when people think they are in love, they confuse it with obsession. Maybe it’s a glitch in the relay of info to your conscious mind.  Basic Obsessive compulsive disorder has simple steps which start with obsession over something (such as... germs) and then heightened levels of anxiety and autonomic arousal... (heart rate increase, sweating etc.). In order to lower this level of arousal the individual makes use of compulsive behaviour. So basically we have an obsession, anxiety and then compulsion to ease the anxiety and people with this disorder viciously follow this cycle. Help is needed to break this cycle, where an individual is taught how to refrain from obsessing and of course medication for the physiological problem. 

Maybe this can be applied to the sort of "love" I'm talking about. The obsession caused by the brain... and us creating an ideal identity for this person. In order to ease this obsession we must interact with the person, as our compulsion. Wait so am I saying that people who get too obsessed with a lover and label it passion can actually be a mild case of obsessive compulsive disorder? Maybe my psychology degree sucks out any ounce of romance I may have left in my empty little soul or maybe it's true. We all have mild forms of many disorders; maybe we can use OCD as an example to describe the cyclic nature of this kind of relationship.

Well ladies and gentlemen relationships are a complex thing, but in the end I guess the most important thing is self-knowledge and introspection. If you know exactly how you’re feeling and why you won’t really have a problem. It’s the people that usually jump first and think later that end up confused.

And on that note, I shall wrap this up by saying… that I am intensely eyeing that apple fritter sitting on my kitchen counter… no I have not quickly ended this blog post because I want to warm it up and eat it while watching an episode of the legend of Korra (maybe). Till next time, Turrah! (art attack reference?)

~YE YEE!

Hearts&Sheit! <3 :3